The Mental Load
Not the chores — the noticing.
You don’t know what’s on your partner’s mind. That’s the problem this solves. The Mental Load is a private planner for the partner who wants to carry more of the household’s invisible work — enter your family once, and it anticipates what needs doing weeks before anyone has to ask.
Notices
The engine stages work with lead time. A birthday isn’t a reminder on the day — it’s the gift at ten days, the plan at seven, the card at two. A visa expiry starts prompting six weeks out.
Knows
Fifty prompts across thirteen domains — health, food, clothing and growth, school, home, admin, her work, her wellbeing, travel, seasonal. Shoe sizes. Whether anyone read the school app this week. Whether she’s had an evening genuinely off duty.
Private
No account, no sign-in, no partner view. The moment a household app is visible to both people it becomes a scoreboard, and scoreboards add load instead of removing it.
For the partner who has offered to help and been told to “just look around”.
You’re not lazy and you’re not oblivious. You know there’s an imbalance and you don’t know where to start. Someone finally built the thing for the other side of this. Photograph a school letter and every date comes out, staged. Say “Emma needs goggles Wednesday and Jack’s passport runs out in October” and get two dated tasks. One morning brief, one Sunday radar — that’s the whole notification budget. No streaks, no gold stars, no guilt. Just the noticing, quietly, before anyone has to ask.
Someone finally built the thing for the other side of this.
The Mental Load, free on the App Store. Premium unlocks the AI — 7-day free trial, then monthly, annual or lifetime.
